You can’t do everything you want to do. You can’t do everything other people want you to do. You might believe you can, but you are 100% wrong. Furthermore, if you try to do it all, it will make you miserable. Trade-offs are a part of life. We all need to learn to make trade-offs wisely.
So how do you choose when to say “yes” and when to say “no?” Here’s some hard won advice.
Read MoreDo you know that Artificial Intelligence (AI) has to practice thinking before it can analyze stuff. As you probably know, AI takes large sets of data and processes them through their AI neural networks to find patterns in data. To practice, the AI is given “similar” data to what they will analyze so it can teach itself how to recognize the patterns in the data. Once it has created the sophisticated algorithms it needs, then it is fed the real world data. But guess what: AI makes too many mistakes!
Read MoreThere is a biography about Napoleon by Andrew Roberts. In one part, it describes Napoleon’s ten months in exile on an island. Exile is what happens when you’re an Emperor and they don’t want to kill you or put you in prison. Ten months for us would be since last August. Hmm. I wonder what you and I have accomplished since then. Here’s Roberts’ list of what Napoleon did to pass his time in that same period.
Read MoreWhen you find yourself shoveling loads of crap into your body, ask yourself why. If you live in 21st century America, the truth is almost never related to food. It’s fatigue, it’s anger, it’s stress, it’s fear, it’s being taken for granted, it’s loneliness, and so on. At times, we are each looking for a little short-term comfort from life’s difficulties — and those French fries will do the trick. Super-size, please.
We turn to food because we can’t find the real things we crave, like appreciation, forgiveness, or understanding. So the next time you’re feeling “hungry” follow these steps.
Read MoreDo you ever wonder how some people melt into a puddle when things get hard, while other people manage to pick themselves up and push themselves forward in the face of grief, fear, or pain — or even bank robbers (Yay, Ada)!
There is a whole tool belt filled with ways to give ourselves that kind of courage - to find hope in our heart, to find confidence in our actions, to inspire ourself to do that difficult thing. If you want a big life filled with the things that truly matter, you need courage to build it decision by decision.
One of the Jedi powers you’ll want to cultivate in your life is the ability to empower yourself. Sometimes you want to be empowered for a huge challenge and sometimes just to be in a better mood. Most people look outside themselves, but it’s not there. If you learn to empower yourself from within, you are unstoppable.
So how do you shift your mind from one gear to the other?
Read MoreIf I remember correctly, I heard about this first from David Allen, the author of Getting Things Done - but I’m not sure he’s the one who invented the idea. Mr. Allen is a time management guru. In his system he has this idea called the “2 Minute Rule.” It says if the task will take you less than two minutes, don’t put it on a list, just do it right away.
A lot of the things we avoid pile up in the back of our mind and make us feel bogged down and overwhelmed. The resistance is exhausting.
Read MoreAlbert Einstein’s General Theory of Relativity gave us some important insights that change the way we understand the universe. Although they were considered a little crazy at the time, his ideas have since been proven and led to many more discoveries. Here’s a little one that you should think about when you are feeling helpless, hopeless, weak, and insignificant.
Because of Einstein and the many scientists that came after him, we know space is actually a gravitational field. We know that gravitational field curves and twists, bends and tilts. And we know why.
Read MoreYour grandfather has been working on a messy project to plaster and repaint our bathroom. I emptied the room to protect its contents from copious plaster dust and to give him easy access to the nooks and crannies of this lovely room. Consequently, I’ve been walking past an array of boxes filled with endless first aid supplies, cosmetics, various styles of curling irons, and so on.
WHEN THINGS ARE NOT IN THEIR RIGHT PLACE, THEY ARE CLUTTER
The people who love you will sometimes give you unsolicited advice, maybe even in the form of a Mugwump Musing. In their concern for your happiness, they may try to solve your problems, even though your problems are not theirs to solve.
When even your own granny does this, please know it is not because she doesn’t trust you to find your way. She knows you have all sorts of tools to deal with the challenges and opportunities in your life.
Read MoreNo matter how serenely you move through life, there will be minutes or months that your peacefulness is disrupted by melancholy. When there is a specific reason, it’s easier to face. But when a pall of grey falls over your otherwise technicolor life for no apparent reason, it can be more disconcerting.
Are these physical changes?
Are my hormones off?
Am I sick?
Am I carrying too much stress?
Am I not carrying enough stress?
Am I feeling lonely, unworthy, exhausted, sleepless, meaningless, and so on ad infinitum?
You can’t get where you want to go, you can’t be who you want to be, unless you’re learning all the time. I think learning is of paramount importance in life, because it cultivates two key attributes: curiosity and wonder. The point of learning is to add to your knowledge base so you can analyze and synthesize information across different disciplines, create new combinations, and grow as a human and maybe create some goodness along the way.
One of the best ways to learn is to read books, and the best books to read are the ones that have stood the test of time. Now you may ask, “How much time, Granny?” The time depends on the subject.
Read MoreI learned a lot about hues from your grandfather. Watching him paint washes and tints all these years has helped me understand how to make things jump off the canvas or fall into the background.
Thinking is like that too. One of my favorite quotes in the Bible is “Seek and ye shall find.” A common interpretation is if you look for something, you will find it. So so true! You really do find what you’re looking for.
Read More“Dunbar's number is a suggested cognitive limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships—relationships in which an individual knows who each person is and how each person relates to every other person.” I was reading an article by one of my favorite writers, Eric Barker. It was loaded with fun facts about social relationships and this amazing number.
Read MoreIf I told you that your life would end at midnight, how would you spend your time? It’s a worthy question, and one you should ask yourself often.
Your Granny is a highly productive person. (Not bragging. Just true). I plan every single day and make adjustments as it unfolds. I have guarded priorities that I defend from interruptions and distractions. I have duties and obligations that require my attention. And, I have cherished time that is unstructured just waiting for me to fill it with my heart’s desire. My day is filled with habits and routines that protect my performance.
I don’t need a mobile phone.
I don’t need a microwave.
I don’t need air conditioning.
I don’t need two bathrooms.
I don’t need an electric blanket.
I don’t need my own computer.
I have said all those things in the past. And, of course, I was right. I didn’t actually need them. But isn’t life often so much easier or better or more enjoyable with them?
Read MoreOnly a few days after my birth, I was christened “Mugwump” by my mother, (i.e. a bird that sits on a fence with its mug on one side and its wump on the other; ref. image above). Since I have first-hand knowledge of life as a bird, I share this information with great authority: EVERYONE HAS AN INNER BIRD.
It is the quality that propels you to sing your heart’s song, whether happy or sad. Your inner bird is also why you’re capable of flight, lifting yourself above the gravity of life to soar to new heights and see life from a higher and brighter perspective.
Read MoreA powerful behavioral modifier that institutions, religions, and dictators use all the time is cognitive dissonance. I think about it like this. If you say you believe something or are going to do something, your brain gets pretty pumped to follow that command. If you don’t, you feel bummed. For example, if you stand up in a church in front of 200 people and say you believe in Jesus, your brain will want to believe in Jesus.
Read MoreWhen choosing a career, being “valued by society” is not a worthy goal. Anything that determines your value from outside yourself is a manipulative trap. It fosters comparison, scorekeeping, competition, greed, and more. I have another approach to offer. It’s pretty simple, really.
1. List the things you enjoy or that interest you.
2. Learn the associated skills related to each of those things.
3. Practice. Gain as much mastery as you can.
Ada, remember when you were being relentlessly tormented in high school by that behemoth of a girl?
And that momentous day when she cornered you in the cafeteria so she could signal her brutality and dominance to horrified onlookers. She ranted and taunted you, then threatened bodily harm. She squeezed her sausage fingers into a fist. “Well, ya just gonna stand there looking stupid?”
You looked her square in the eyes — and vomited on her shoes. Not just any shoes, but her new fancy high-tops.
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